congrats!

very nice, thanks for sharing! that’s a lovely perspective.

noooo that’s cute please continue and find a happier goth girl

yes!

i’dve told em <- i can hear the local accent in it lol

we have changed over time, removing TV from our lives over the past 7 years. I did notice that it is easier to not watch TV when i have a lot of free things to do nearby, outside. like gardening and landscaping. we have one tv in the living room just to be able to watch a movie sometimes, it is awesome. bedroom is completely built to be aesthetic, cozy and for SLEEPING or whatever. nothing more, nothing less so we get out of there when we are done.

pick me! i practiced earlier being really horny uwu

love you violet… and you have inspired me to wanna post. i hope i do, but I’ll never be prolific and whorrific as you

no, actually just better customer service

Hey friend! I also slowly did this. I dont regret taking the years to figure it out and try things. From like 19 to 24 I just thought i liked femme stuff sometimes. met my wife, who affirmed my feelings for the first time ever, but she wanted a bf so we dated cishet for 2 years. then i became a femboy ((egg)) and there were signs before that for her. she was always supportive without outwardly telling me, i never thought to ask. i thought i was just doing my regular atrange femme guy stuff. WRONG. dysphoria started hitting like a train around 28 to 30 then i just started HRT with zero inout from her because i was scared. i didnt know she supported me already. she sometimes aligned with TERFs and i thought it would end the marriage.

our marriage only got better, went poly, both rather happy because we enjoy each other fully. she likes how i gained a lot of emotion and we express feelings a lot more together. another poster said “living with a teenage girl” yeah… HRT did that to me too lol

my wife was cis het, but now ids as queer. she still only prefers men, but we still have a great relationship 😉 i get to be an exception.

thank you bayes 😘

about 1 year in, estradiol valerate 0.2 mL im weekly, Spironalactone 2x daily, started progesterone about 9 months in.

it wasn’t long before i felt tenderness in my breasts, maybe 6 weeks. grew to B cups then progesterone has really made them fill out more and still gaining, on the light side of C currently. i decided to weight cycle using cheese (i love cheese) and that worked out pretty well, i gained about 30 lbs permanently (in all my favorite places).

i also decided to really try to eat healthy other than being a cheese monster, went mostly vegetarian and worked out about 2x or 3x weekly just legs and core.

I started a bit later in life, at 31 but I identify as NB so its fine. I do still get a lot of confusion though I like being able to tone it up or down with clothes as a determining factor.

People treat me differently now, in good ways and bad ways. I am about 1000% more emotional, for better and for worse. I personally love that i get upset enough that i can cry over dumb stuff like missing someone or being TOO HAPPY. The crying got much worse with progesterone, but it isn’t a lasting sadness, it’s acute. to the point that I’ll be crying and logically know that there’s nothing to feel that strongly about, but the physical reaction happens anyways. my wife thinks it’s been really therapeutic for me, probably euphoria related mostly.

uhhh what else, idk but it was a great choice. take your time, hang out with people that actually care about you and don’t waste time on anyone that brings you down.

i am nonbinary, i prefer she/her but i use transfem and/or AMAB on my dating profiles because it is very helpful to who contacts me. also, i still dont put much thought into it. my contact with people who have thought about people that have discussed this with me are all on this thread right now. so, thanks fpr the opinions. I’ll consider ceasing usage of AMAB, but i like to express to men that i am different. its only because language is slippery, and my local culture that i use these terms. i’m in the south with not that many trans folks nearby.

usually my thing is if i want to vibe then they should just respect my pronouns. if its a random person, i could care less. people that i want to date, i try to indicate that im transfem because I’ll be honest, they care a lot about whether I’m going to be “femme” in some sense and they need to know to ask about what gender affirming care ive done, and i dont find that offensive.

love to yap, thanks for introducing this topic to me!

more women want to date me now because i present as a femboy. it’s hilarious, but understandable. they feel safer around me generally and appreciate makeup/style choices and my higher attention on emotions which i learned through the queer community.

hey, I highly recommend getting a gym membership. for me, having a routine and making it a ritual to get to the gym made it like a sunk cost fallacy thing so now i stay for 30m to an hour because i had to go out of my way to get there. they have body length mirrors to check progress. youll need to focus on eating a lot if you find gaining weight difficult. i ate literal blocks of cheese to compensate for my metabolism. not the healthiest, but plenty of fat and protein. it worked like a charm.

cats are devastating to local ecosystems. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_predation_on_wildlife

Hey! I wanted to weigh in about this because I did experience what others might call “increased attraction to men”. I was already dabbling and at least bi, but hetero romantic. always was with women but this change deliberately coincided with me trying out men and being more comfortable with being pansexual. I’m still with my wife, find her even more attractive because she still loves me and supports me! but i do enjoy men a lot more now too, but i think that was always there and i was repressing it to fit social expectations. that changed with HRT because i was subverting multiple expectations at the same time, like i gave up trying to mask.

i like you, youre funny and smort

It’s great that you get to discuss it! Don’t hold anxiety because of some emotions he has that you cannot control. It’s also possible for it to get worse, so move forward with people that are happy with you. Spend your time and effort almost entirely on the people that you know care. He will come around on his own time; or not. It speaks volumes to what he cares about in the relationship with you if that essential part of you is nonexistent to him. I’m going through something similar, and I think a lot of trans folx do.

:3