cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/41202906

The rain came back but ima still wear my dresses!

Im sorry to hear about the comrades who dont get to be their true selves this week, i hate to see it

Ill girlmode for you! This dress is actually pretty special to me. Its my first ever dress i got after coming out to my wife! She bought it for me and i loved it 5 years ago and i love it now!!

Excuse my mess and dirty mirror, im not gonna clean it 😂

Anyone else have special clothes like this?

    • brookedSmileOP
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      11 days ago

      Shhhhhhh i hate the mess rn but i hate thinking about cleaning even moreeee

      • galnamedzero@piefed.zeromedia.vip
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        11 days ago

        You’re so real for that. I’ve been stressing about my room for literal months, and then the other day I had a burst of cleaning clarity and got it all done

      • IcyToes@sh.itjust.works
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        11 days ago

        Then don’t think about it. Pick up dirty clothes, and rubbish first. You’ll see it more clearly and feel good, then the clothes that can still be worn, then you’re 70% to 80% of way there. Success is motivating.

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          10 days ago

          True true, ill get there. My mood really affects my ability to do adult things and last week was bad sooo 🤷‍♀️

          Although they say thats not like neurotypical i guess? But i dont think ive ever met a single person who could function through that lol

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              10 days ago

              I heard the other day that some people goto bed, get in, close their eyes, and just… go to sleep?? What the fuck is that???

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                10 days ago

                I do that. Didn’t when I was younger. But as I am content and get older, easy. I struggle to get off games/Lemmy and allow my head to hit the pillow.

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                  10 days ago

                  How i envy you lmao

                  Literally just woke up from a bit of a nightmare, 3 hrs of sleep! Thats more than normal 😂😂

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      11 days ago

      Well get some more!

      I wish i had your cute skirts!! Plus the trans pride shoelaces 😍 where tf you get those?

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          10 days ago

          I cant hate i shop amazon too as much as i dont want to. Beezos really did a good job making sure his store was the only one that has certain things. And that certain things catalog has been growing for over a decade lol.

          No shame! Thats where i got my trans pride shirt (which im not even sure you saw that post! https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/40661672) youre definitely not alone

          I also get ALOT of my dresses from hot topic if you can believe that, including this one ❤️

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    8 days ago

    Damn girl that dress looks like it was made for you. I still haven’t tried one because I’m terrified of the fit being bad and hitting a dysphoria spiral bit I keep looking at them in shops. One day soon.

    But I have now bought 3 skirts and I love them all. I also bought some really cute femme linen trousers, they have a shape that is totally different to any “for men” trousers I’ve ever owned and they make me feel cute as hell.

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      8 days ago

      Hell yeah! You may think this dress is made for me. But ill let you in on a little secret, i barely fit this dress comfortably, and if i gain any more weight than what i have now, it will not fit.

      Lol i do love this dress though. Its what made me realize that the all black goth punk look i always thought i liked was just me dressing dark to disappear, turns out im a light color nature theme cabin in the woods gal 😂 i love it, just unexpected

      Try not to think too hard about it, just send it! If you think too hard and stare at yourself in the mirror i guarantee youll find something you hate that noone else will notice. We all do it. I do it with my shoulders and chin alot, i just try not to dwell on it.

      Also, thrift stores! Thats where you can get cheap dresses in different cuts and fits and find what you like! If anything doesnt fit, or you dont like the way it looks, just re donate it! (Obviously if youre in the financial position to do so) ive actually done that with entire hauls before. Ill get them all thrift, get home to try on (cause not completely public yet) decide i hate them all and re donate them 😂

      Whatever you do, youll rock it!

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        7 days ago

        Fuck yeah that was actually the confidence boost I needed right now. Thank you.

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          7 days ago

          Yay im glad i could help. No need for thanks, i love helping people and lifting them up, is just who i am ❤️