It’s pretty much like that, but with some pretty significant differences.

Queer people are like Schrodinger’s cat. Depending on who’s inquiring or when or how or what, they can be straight or queer. Also, available queer people tend to be older, as society is still very cishet normative and makes self discovery, itself, a taboo, and in a lot of places, illegal and dangerous.

So you end up with this fucked up, maybe small box, with nuts that come out of nowhere, everybody’s damaged, and in order to have any relationship even with yourself, you’re required to have at least a modicum of empathy, but even that is too much to ask for some people.

So it’s… Different. It has many more layers at play, but still has largely that dynamic you’re describing.

Edit: I want to add that, a lot of (but not all) queer people are non-monogamous of some kind, so mutual attraction becomes very important as an initiator, not just partnered or not. We are constantly checking each other out, both to shop but also to see if the other person is looking, too. Like there’s this jojo looking girl that works at my local grocery store that’s super attractive but I don’t want to bother her because she’s way out of my league.