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DO NOT MOVE OUR ROCK!!!
What if it’s a pretty rock?
At least 80% of the trans women I know were computer science majors, or at high risk for becoming one. The one thing I know for sure is that computer science majors don’t go outside.
Can confirm. I met a bunch of MtF people in my CS program and I go to uni in Texas.
First semester at RIT I was doing laundry and heard some ladies (rare sightings in 2000) talking about hash. As a stoner I got excited until i realized it was hash tables.
😥
To be fair, they’re not mutually exclusive concepts. In fact, hash tables may make more sense while high.
Is being a trans woman not already a major risk factor for cs majoring?
I have the opposite problem. I know lots of transfems but very few trans men.
Which really sucks because i’m into men, but good men are really hard to find. Like, seriously, where are all the queer, feminist, gentle, emotionally available men at?! I go to irl queer events and it’s usually all women. (Not that women aren’t also hot, but i’m trying to catch 'em all here. 😝)
By virtue of their lived experiences, trans men are usually more feminist and queer friendly than cis men, and are therefore much more attractive on average. And yet I can’t seem to find any 😥
It’s a universal problem. Good men/women/other spend far less time “available” than their fellows. A (straight) man like that would likely be snatched up and hung onto by the first woman smart enough to realise what she’s got. If she’s also a good option for him, then both are off the market permanently.
It’s like a box of chocolates. It’s not that the good ones don’t exist. The box just gets picked clean, and you’re left with the weird nuts to choose from.
(P.s. I stumbled in here from /all, so only have experience with how it plays out for straight foke. I presume it likely plays out similarly for queer etc too)
It’s pretty much like that, but with some pretty significant differences.
Queer people are like Schrodinger’s cat. Depending on who’s inquiring or when or how or what, they can be straight or queer. Also, available queer people tend to be older, as society is still very cishet normative and makes self discovery, itself, a taboo, and in a lot of places, illegal and dangerous.
So you end up with this fucked up, maybe small box, with nuts that come out of nowhere, everybody’s damaged, and in order to have any relationship even with yourself, you’re required to have at least a modicum of empathy, but even that is too much to ask for some people.
So it’s… Different. It has many more layers at play, but still has largely that dynamic you’re describing.
Edit: I want to add that, a lot of (but not all) queer people are non-monogamous of some kind, so mutual attraction becomes very important as an initiator, not just partnered or not. We are constantly checking each other out, both to shop but also to see if the other person is looking, too. Like there’s this jojo looking girl that works at my local grocery store that’s super attractive but I don’t want to bother her because she’s way out of my league.
A lot of queer people are non monogamous
God I wish this were more true. I meet too many queer monogamous people and it makes me sad bc they’re hot 😥
I feel you but i have the problem of wanting a tall buff jock that treats trans people like people. Where are all the tall hot dude bros that arent chasers??
I thought I found one a few years ago, but quickly started finding …downsides.
So they do exist, but also people do know what other people want and don’t want, and either hide/lie things about themselves or there may be tradeoffs.
Their boyfriends keep them locked up for their own safety.
Hypothesis: social body expectations for women are more strict, so it’s harder to pass. Men can just not shave and mission accomplished.
Generally been my experience. I know a few trans fems but I don’t think I know any trans mascs. It’s easier to pass as a short king.
Not needing to know anything would be great
I have the sudden urge to figure out how to send arbitrary images to our receipt printers at work
Having a cute party at club bug under a rock with my besties is now a transition goal for me.
Do trans men actually have that much of an advantage when transitioning, or is it just that people don’t care as much?
I am not transmasc so this is just me speculating.
I think there would be some advantages that seemingly exist, but not really, and it’s definetely still not as easy as “just stop doing makeup.”
Long essay of my reasoing.
We usually go “what’s hard for me” and think from there. That doesn’t consider the entire process tho.
For example they can dress as their gender even before starting HRT, and it would be seen as style rather than fetish. But if they ever show chest like instagram gym dudes can then it’s considered outright porn.
There is more accepted body-types for male beauty standards. But in my experience average person actually looks for makeup/beard followed by voice followed by others last when assuming gender. Main bottleneck is still voicetraining.
Also all of this is in west so trans people in the middle east etc would have different cultural norms to fill in.
There are the biological disadvantages transfem people don’t have to deal with too. For example human body can convert testostorone to estrogen but not opposite. So HRT may be complicated for them.
Don’t forget puberty depends on sex, and transfem people have some advantage from there as well. In my case I hit puberty close to age of 17. I don’t think many transmasc people had same experience.
In the end I think any advantage/disadvantage is just negligible.
i don’t think there’s any innate advantage, but on average, trans men transition earlier than trans women, so that may have something to do with it
there’s also that, if you don’t pass, being seen as a masculine woman is much less risky than being seen as a feminine man (i’m talking the “man-in-a-dress” stereotype here, not femboys and such), so trans women are more likely to do the “boymode until you can pass then go stealth forever”
honestly most of my trans men friends just prefer things like hunting and fishing (and especially finding cool bugs) over the internet.
We never leave the computer :3 (it’s where New Vegas is)
I can’t be everywhere :p. I mostly boymod unless safe place.
Always find it curious, I have it the other way around, I know like 2 trans guys IRL.
i only ever met trans guys growing up and didnt realize you could do it the other way around
wait this is actually so true- glitch in the matrix
Sounds like MTF is more successful at passing
