Thank goodness for family bathrooms.
I used to clean women’s restrooms when I was pre-transition / living as a boy / man, and I think that really helped reduce my stigma and fear of being in women’s restrooms.
When I was visibly trans, I just made sure to use the restroom with other, supportive women - going in groups created a sense of protection.
Best thing to do in my opinion is to remember the purpose of bathrooms and have confidence in just walking in.
If it helps, when I used to be a cis guy I actually applied makeup in front of the public bathroom mirrors. I tried to use the least occupied washrooms at first but gradually as the Mondays rolled I just gave less of a fuck and it just became routine at that point.
I started using the more populated washrooms out of a rush for time. At first I was worried that I’d be gawked at but honestly no one bothered looking even while I was applying my foundation. Since everyone was probably just as busy as I was, no one bothered me at all.
So nowadays as an out enby, I just use whatever is convenient to apply my makeup, turns out no one has the time to give a damn and that works perfectly for me and other people like yall here🤗
this helps. my entire existence is weird and it just helps to identify as enby to uncomplicate things in one area of my life to not like, have to draw several maps with colors and zones and times of day and shit.
Where do you find these comics? I tried xcancel and tumblr but brooke2valley seemed to have stopped uploading last december.
Is she still doing new comics and I missed them or are they from the archives?
She still posts on Reddit. I pretty sure she’s always been primarily a Reddit creature
She should consider switching to Piefed, away from Big Tech…
does she know about piefed or lemmy?
I feel like the main online trans communities are still on reddit - not really sure why they haven’t moved off reddit, tbh
i know she was on raddle, for a bit, after the reddit api stuff, so she certainly knows of reddit alternatives, and I think she was on mastodon for a time too, but she hasn’t posted there for well over a year now :(
oh, I remember raddle - there was a big controversy because it turned out a single person was orchestrating complex drama and fights between different users that ended up just being a single person, which led to a betrayal of trust for some of the people who were helping host the servers, and there was a big question of whether that space could continue …
I sorta walked away from raddle for a bit after that. It also felt smaller than lemmy (at the time anyway, I think this was before Lemmy was a thing), so I guess they’re not really comparable.
It seems like a lot of people went to Mastodon and then didn’t stick around :-(
Yeah, when r/traaa had to close someone made r/traaa2
do you know why /r/traaa closed?
Because forced people to pay horrendous prices for their 3rd party API which led to most independent apps and the mod tools the r/traaa mods relied on to not be viable anymore. This caused a massive protest and exodus which led to a big rise in other plattforms like Lemmy :3
oh, ok - I didn’t know that, thanks!
Almost 5 years in and still yep.
Look at that… a comic trans women and bigoted cis women can both enjoy.
At least she’s ryin’ G, fr
