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    grindr is not the place to find a long term relationship

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        It could last the rest of your life

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      You’d be surprised… I currently have two LTRs that started as Grindr hookups…

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            Really? Maybe I’m just weird about intimacy or something but my shortest relationship that wasn’t a literal joke was like 3 years, most being 4. If people are frequently under that then I wonder why they’re diving into relationships they don’t have high confidence in… Do people count grindr hookups as relationship?.. I guess I’ve never been one for dating so…

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              I was married for 3 years. Felt like a thousand tho. How is a grind hookup equivalent in any way to a 3y relationship?

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              No, I don’t count hookups as relationships, especially not long term relationships. But when they turn into significantly more than that, I do. I don’t need to defend my relationships though.

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          My definition is relationships I’ve been in for a good while that I intend to stay in. Why the personal attacks though? Seems pretty rude for no reason.

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        Same here! Found a couple really great people on Grindr I’m happily still with a few years later. Met a bandmate there too, lol

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          Yep, I’ve found it really comes down to setting the right intentions up front, and being selective in who you play with. My goal was never to be on Grindr forever, but that’s where I had to go to meet fun kinky trans people in my area.

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      What about the guy who shat in that dudes mouth? Dreams can come true…

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          Yeah, mods are a bunch of anti scat-fetish prudes.

          He did go though with it, both were very happy.

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      You could say the same thing about Tinder, and I’ve been married for over 8 years because of it.

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      I.was waiting for “I was shot”, then :

      Shot to the heart
      And you’re to blame
      I’m stuck in bed
      But still game

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    This is light years beyond the level of multitasking I aspire to on my best days, so I really have to give my respect.