Naturally as I transition, I am thinking about what I should name myself.
So far:
Lilly - just like the ring of it.
Stella - really like this one. It means star in latin so thats cool, and I think it suits me.
Sophie - thinking about naming myself after the 1700s/1800s mathematician sophie germain. I’m obsessed with maths so it suits me on that level, but tbh I still like stella more.
Anyway, thats it!
-minty
All cute, just know that any transfemme space you enter will have at least 3 other Lily’s
And 1-2 Stellas aren’t unlikely either
I really like Lilly :) just be aware that like 95% of trans girlies feel the same way haha
I have heard that lool
i like the story behind why you like Sophie. But it sounds like you like Stella more and in the end that’s what matters most.
The way I did it was just trying a name in a small circle of friends for a while and then introducing it in the workplace. I feel like I only knew if my name suited me was hearing other people say it and “trying it on”
Ah yeah. I reckon I’ll try that
Welcome to the “chose or considered the name Lilly” club <3 To be fair, it’s a very pretty name, and very feminine :3
Stella is a really pretty one! I’m an outer-space enjoyer, so I might be a bit biased, though :p (Also, “stella” is the word for “star” not just in Latin, but also Italian and Interlingua).
Sophie is really cute, and it’s cool to have lore about your name; it makes for good conversation starters. I think it’s another Transfemme Classic™? I never considered it though, so I’m not certain lol
Ultimately, only you can actually decide. Have fun with your name-choosing! <3
What are your physical characteristics? I like the name Wren, but I’d never use it for myself because wrens are tiny and I’m more of an ostrich. I also like the name Laila but wouldn’t use it for myself because it’s not really appropriate for a blonde blue eyed person.
Lilly is a good solid trans name, my association is with Lili Elbe. Unfortunately she died from infection due to an attempted uterus transplant.
Stella I associate with domestic abuse and Belgian pilsner. Nice meaning but the beer is actually referred to as “wife beater” in Britain and I think that association would be a deal breaker for me personally.
Sophie’s choice… Probably also my choice
Another thing to consider is what is most fitting for a woman of your age and nationality? Like Erin is very popular in Britain now, but would be very strange for a woman of my age.
I overthink everything. Sorry 😔
There are virtually no Ada’s my age. They’re all 30 years younger than me or 30 years older than me. And my birth name was genuinely one of a kind.
I think that sort of thing is worth thinking about, but it’s not something worth giving too much consideration, because you’re the one that has to live with it and other people just don’t care that much.
Wow that stella association is intense.
Yeah i’ll have a think which name also suits me in terms of age/nationality etc. Laila is a solid name
Also your all good :)
RE Lili Elbe, it’s moreso that she died due to immunosuppressors not being a thing yet at the time. Those became a thing multiple decades after her death, iirc.
There are two kinds of transfemmes:
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Those who choose a sensible name that suits their demographic (age, location, physical characteristics, etc.)
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Those who just choose a completely random/unique/non-standard name (me) :3
Mine is a mix of both: Echedelle.
Is a derivative of an aboriginal name (my a feminization of my deadname) with 2 easter eggs and a lewd reference on it (in spanish).
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There is a scene in a play called Streetcar Named Desire which was made famous in the movie version with Marlon Brando as he yells “STELLAAaaaaa”.
I dont want to scare you off from that name but it is something to prepare for. I spent way too much time trying to figure out how many ways i could be bullied by the name i chose but it is not a requirement. Stella is a solid name choice!
I love all three names. Personally i would go with Sophie because thats the name of the artist that performs as Soccer Mommy. :)
Good luck on your name picking journey! Try using the names you want to pick up things from stores etc so you can see it / hear someone else saying it. I had limited success doing this at coffee places for example.
I named myself after the street I grew up on lol
As a fellow star girlie, I like Stella. I was gonna pick Shelly for myself, but it’s a kinda old and rare name now like Stella and I didn’t want to be such a typical tgirl with an antiquated name.
There is an astronomy themed district in the town I live in. All the roads have names like star road, Sirius road, Saturn road, etc. Its just south of the district where all the roads are geology themed names and north of the district where all the roads have plant based names.
this is a good idea I should name myself state highway x
Damn your house was just on a highway?
yup it was very loud
Join the lilies. ( I’m not based at all ≽•⩊•≼)
Well I chose Emily, but lot of people call me Lily :3 Anyway just choose what makes you happy ☺️
Love them all. I chose names that let me keep my initials (and kind of my signature since only the first letter is recognizable these days anyway, lol) The first name was also the name of someone who was very special to me a long time ago. It’s more common of a name than I probably would have chosen if it wasn’t for that person, but I chose a shortened version for a nickname that is rare and as a standalone name has both masc and femme uses in different cultures that do use it. I’m internally agender though I present feminine, have feminine parts now, and prefer to be treated as a woman. So it works well for me.
Your name is deeply personal, do I won’t say any one or another, as the best name is the name you choose. To help you choose I will ask a few questions for you to answer for yourself (you don’t need to tell us the answers if you don’t want to, they are to help guide you):
- Do you want to keep the first letter of your deadname? (Can make some admin easier, and less likely to cause dysphoria from seeing old initials)
- Do you want a more unique name or a more common name?
- Do you want a personal story behind your name choice?
- Do you want (or want to avoid) stereotypical transfemme names?
- Do you care about how it flows phonetically into your surname (if you are keeping it)?
Then, once you have your list, ask trusted friends or family to try calling you by these names and see what you prefer. Note that if you are not out to them yet, you can do the classic move of playing a DND character with your proposed name.
Good luck and enjoy the journey!
I think Stella is so pretty, be a Stella!
It seems like you like Stella the most out of those three 😁 If you don’t want to try it with people just yet, you can play around with this website
Now thats a cute website :)
might steal sophie for my candidate list. its a cute name.
